The Autistic Parashah | Kedoshim
In this week's Torah portion, Parashat Kedoshim, we encounter perhaps the most profound ethical framework in the Torah, including the commandment to "love your neighbor as yourself" (Leviticus 19:18). Rabbi Akiva, a significant figure in Jewish tradition and a sage of the early 2nd century, emphasized this commandment as a fundamental principle of the Torah, going as far to saying that everything in the Torah is commentary on this point. This principle calls us to extend empathy, respect, and recognition to all, affirming the inherent worth of every person, including those who are neurodistinct.
The Torah also instructs us not to place a stumbling block before the blind (Leviticus 19:14), a commandment that underscores the broader call for accessibility and inclusivity for disabled member of our community. This should extend beyond the literal to encompass societal policies and practices that exclude or disadvantage disabled humans. It advocates against creating or maintaining barriers—whether physical, social, or emotional—that hinder the full participation of disabled individuals in society.
While the commandments in our Torah portion set a high standard, I would be remiss not to acknowledge that not everyone adheres to them. Autistic humans and disabled people face abuse and neglect every day, even within spiritual communities where these ethical teachings should guide behavior. Ableism, the discrimination and social prejudice against people with disabilities, permeates many aspects of life, including religious settings. When those who face such discrimination speak out, they are often shamed and rejected, which only compounds their marginalization.
Our Torah portion also teaches us the commandment to honor one's parents (Leviticus 19:3), one that presents significant challenges, especially for autistic humans in environments where familial understanding and support may be lacking and abuse can be rampant. These family dynamics can be fraught with conflict, particularly when parents, influenced by societal norms that pathologize neurodivergence, push for treatments or interventions that suppress autistic traits.
Conversely, many parents of autistic children may themselves be undiagnosed autistic adults who have never received support or understanding. Their struggles and the unaddressed needs can inadvertently perpetuate cycles of misunderstanding and distress in their parenting. None of this, to be sure, is simple. The commandment to honor thus is a challenging one that we struggle with.
Addressing the complexities of these relationships and the broader societal challenges requires a nuanced approach that considers the need for personal boundaries and the acknowledgment of systemic issues. It is crucial to advocate for spaces where autistic humans can express their identities safely and fully. This advocacy often means setting boundaries with those who do not understand or accept one's neurodivergence to protect one's emotional and physical well-being.
Furthermore, it is essential to call out and rebuke the ableism and neglect that occur within our communities. The Torah teaches us not only about love and respect but also about justice and fairness. As we reflect on these teachings, we must have the courage to challenge those who fail to uphold these values, ensuring our spiritual communities are truly inclusive and supportive.
Shabbat Shalom!
